In this article I will provide you with the basics of body langauge as well as provide tips on how to change your body language in order to exert a strong, confident personality. Appearing as if you possess a strong, confident personality will ultimately improve your chances with the women.
A basic understanding of body language can come in handy in almost every situation in your daily life.
Patti Wood, author of Success Signals: A Guide to Reading Body Language, states that almost 90% of what we say comes from nonverbal cues, which includes our body language.
Body language, she explains, is everything from our facial expressions, to eye contact, to our gestures, stance, and posture. While the subtle differences of body language are complicated, there are some common body language signs worth a thousand words.
Ross Buck, PhD, a professor of communication sciences and psychology at the University of Connecticut states the following: “Body language represents a separate communication process beyond words. It exists simultaneously with language, but it is emotional and largely happening at the subconscious level.”
I will now cover some body language basics, as well as provide tips which will help you hold yourself in a manner which exerts confidence.
It is important to note that when translating body language signals into feelings and meanings, one signal does not reliably indicate a meaning. Clusters of signals more reliably indicate meaning.
Although body language is one of several indicators of mood, meaning and motive, it only serves as a general guide. Body language should not be used alone for making serious decisions about people, rather you should combine non-verbal body language cues with what the person is actually saying. In doing so you will form a more accurate and complete analysis of the situation.
Firstly, we will cover posture
Posture can be sign of dominance or submissiveness.
Shoulders back with an erect posture can be a sign of dominance, while being slumped can mean insecurity, guilt, or a feeling of shame. Tip: Walk with your shoulders back and your head up at all times.
Now, let’s cover eye contact.
Eye contact is a common body language signal used to gauge the sincerity of what a person is saying.
While the rules of eye-contact engagement vary from culture to culture, in the West the ability to sustain eye contact usually indicates honesty and free expression of one’s true feelings.
The eyes, however, being such a powerful part of our body language, can express more than just honesty, including everything from sexual interest, to annoyance, to happiness and pain.
Tip: Always hold eye contact during conversion.
The following body signals can also be used to gauge whether someone is lying to you:
If someone is telling you something while covering their mouth, and/or avoiding eye contact, theres a significant chance theyre lying to you.
If a person’s hands rub from his forehead down across his face, he could be wiping away an emotion, like stress or anxiety. Either way, if what a person is saying contradicts his body language, your intuition might be picking up on something that is not quite right.
Tip: Look for incongruities between what is being said, and what is being displayed.
Now ill cover some specific examples of body language as applied to first date scenarios.
First dates are loaded with body language signs that can help you gauge whether or not a person is interested.
One of the most important body language signs you should convey during your first date is eye contact. If either person looks around the room and avoids eye contact, that’s a sign they’re not interested, and that a second date isn’t likely.
When a man touches a woman on the small of her back to walk her through a door, that’s a sign of confidence and interest.
For women, it’s the length of their touch that measures their interest. While short, less-than-a-second touches are appropriate, touches that are too long could convey an intimate meaning.
I trust that this article has provided you with valuable insight into the world of non-verbal communication. Now, the onus is on you to put the above tips in to action.