The difference between guys who go out there and make things happen, and the guys that get no where with women, is largely to do with rejection! The guys that go out there and are willing to get rejected by women, GET WOMEN! If you are a guy that often gets rejected, what that really means is that you are the kind of guy that has the self confidence to put yourself out there! This is a REALLY strong character trait to have.
If you are the kind of guy that has the “How do I NOT get rejected” mindset, what that really means is that deep down, you really are not as strong as you think you are. You see, avoiding rejection is like avoiding getting wet when you go surfing. It JUST CAN’T HAPPEN!
The truth is that time 9 times out of 10, getting rejected has ALMOST NOTHING to do with you on a personal level!
In order to learn how to deal with rejection, it is a lot easier if you understand the possible reason for the rejection in order to process it without taking it to heart. Here is a list of the most common reasons as to why a girl is likely to reject you, or any other man.
Reason 1) She simply is not looking for a relationship! Despite what ‘Sex in the City’ might suggest to you, not every girl is on the hunt for a man. Most mature women love to sort out their priorities. This means that a lot of women want to sort themselves out, before they take on another commitment into their lives. This may be work or study related, or they simply may just want to settle into a new town or place. They need time!
Reason 2) You are coming on to her far too strongly! Please do not take this personally! This does not mean that you are a bad person! Women prefer to have at least a little distance. When you meet a girl, she needs to decide whether she can trust you and whether or not she is attracted to you. Regardless of whether or not she likes you, if you come onto her too quickly and too strongly, her natural urge is too reject you every time!
Reason 3) Your approach does not appear genuine! It is a turn on for a woman to be approached by a guy that she finds attractive. However, if she can see it in your eyes that you are on the hunt, every atom of her body is going to tell her to resist your approach! Women do not want to be the next “root” and added to your list of statistics. So when you approach, make it appear to be an “in the moment” kind of thing. Do not make it obvious that you are on the hunt. That will not help you.
Reason 4) She is taken! Yeah SURPRISE SURPRISE! A lot of attractive women are not currently on the market. This is just reality. This is not going to change. If you want to get a girl, you have to put yourself out there. But you must keep in mind that there will be a percentage of girls that you approach, who are already taken. No decent girl will accept your advance, if she is off the market. Move on!
Reason 5) You are not her type! Unless you have some kind of multiple personality disorder, you are never going to be a part of every category of what different women are attracted to. Coca cola is a popular drink, but not everyone likes it. This is nothing personal. Every girl is attracted to a different guy, for a different reason. No guy is attractive to EVERY girl. This sadly includes you! So get over it and move on.
You can make a decision. You can be the kind of man that is too afraid to approach, and lose all potential opportunities! Or you could be a man that is willing to suck it up and have the courage to go for what you want. Which kind of man do you think is more successful with women? Yeah. You guessed it! Embrace your fear, and stop dwelling about rejection!
This is how to deal with rejection!